Hello All!

I hope all of you are keeping well and had a great start to the New Year!

So January has whizzed past and there has been no update from mumways yet. Where did the month go? I was planning some upgrades for mumways and thought of writing to you with everything new. That kept me procrastinating and did not even realise that one day became a month of ‘not writing’. It would have kept on going until I got a few comments from the readers. Thank you for that 🙂

Please accept my sincere apologies.

So how have you been? What’s new? The first post for 2015 is dedicated to the changes that you would like to see in ‘you’. It’s not anything ground breaking; it’s about the little tunings in your life and when you look back at 2015, you feel great. You can say resolutions but I would say ‘determination for the day’. As a woman multitasking and trying to slot in various activities, all I need is a calm mind to deal with any situation. This is what I have been working on and thought of sharing.  I have been taking out some time in the morning for a healthy breakfast for the mind. Keep the junk aside and train your mind with 15 minutes of exercise. An exercise where you let go of things such as ‘who said what to you’, ‘who criticised you’ ‘what happened yesterday’, and you delete everything which keep you going back to the past and worry about the future.

Just focus on the ‘now’ part and gear up for a great day.

Particularly when you are looking after kids, any negative emotion that you carry from the previous day has a huge impact on your child. Because it’s emotional, and you are emotionally attached to your kids, the interaction with your kids would not be pleasant. Don’t carry the heavy shoulders from yesterday. I learnt an amazing thing from one of my son’s programmes, ‘Ninja Turtle’. One of the characters from ‘Ninja Turtle’ said, ‘I gave wings to someone’s angered comments, I should have ignored them’. Just ignore the roughness of the previous day and bring a fresh start to the day.

Whether you have a long commute or a hectic morning, slot in your mind training programme on the go. If possible, avoid newspaper in the morning and substitute it with a bit of headspace, pick up a light-meditating read.

I usually listen to or read something positive in the morning, which gives me the strength to prioritise. It takes a bit of discipline but you would know ‘not to give wings to unnecessary information’ and deplete your energy levels. When you are at home instead of shouting at your kids, you are in a state of balance to not to aggravate a situation.

Usually it’s fine but the days when you are tired and your kids just wouldn’t listen (they are being kids), it can get really tiring. You run after their homework and they are still busy with their Lego or they are still sharpening their nth pencil instead of writing the first word. In those situations, if you were already fired up from a previous thought, you wouldn’t have the power to deal with these little things. So tune your mind to the important things and let go of the junk. Analyze your thoughts, filter them and make 2015 a beautiful year.

This is something that I have been working on. What about you? Why not make time for the things that you used to find calming. Reading, writing, painting, languages, craft, plan out something for the year and make it happen. Research suggests that repetitive movements help the mind to keep its focus on the present. So what’s stopping you, pick something today and make your today special and tomorrow will take care on it’s own. Put aside the thoughts that are limiting your imagination, find out what you want for yourself and just do it today and when you look back at 2015, you don’t have to think of a new year resolution!

Some of the authors who started writing books last year or in 2013 are still writing, while for some they have their work in front of them. When you have something to work on or aim for, it gives a special meaning and purpose. They all began and that’s the reason they are there.

When you’re lost you find yourself unconsciously moving towards light, or towards a familiar voice,” says Helen Macdonald, this year’s winner for Costa Book award. I hope you find something to aim at, be it relationships or mindfulness or something that has your focus on the ‘now’.

Lots of love for a great year!

Suranjita

Suranjita Bhagawati

Hello and welcome to 'Mumways'. I am Suranjita and I live in London with my three lovely kids and husband. Mumways is for inspiration - Writing about parenting, well being and lifestyle. I hope you enjoy going through it and thank you for visiting!