Things will keep coming, let me tell you they can wait

It’s your moment of ‘nothing’ just seize it

Second week at work, second weekend, happy Friday, lazy Saturday, lazy weekend – the plan. First week at work was a mixture of confusion, excitement and apprehensions. What (read lists) went in my head is better not stated. Weekend, Sunday evening in particular, after the first week at work was very daunting. It was grey, windy and my baby had a nap in the evening. I had the whole week in front of me. Evening nap meant, late nights and late night meant, well it’s a circle, you know the drill. It was not looking good for me.

 Whenever something goes out of the order, there is a level of discomfort. It’s something similar to picking a book from a stack of books and destroying everything in the process. You meticulously try to get that particular book and in doing so, apart from that book, all other books land up on the pile of clothes kept on that unfortunate chair. The natural disaster would make sure the books would caress the pen and pencil stands in the vicinity. Imagine the sound something like ‘dheng…chan chan..chan. Mess all around and all you wanted an order to the evening for the perfect start of the week. I don’t even know why I asked you to imagine the ‘sound of the collapse’ and how it is of any significance? May be I wanted you to be a part of the rush. Must have happened with you as well. I am not talking about the mess but the rush of adrenaline for the build up to the week. Do you also get panicky when things go a bit haywire?

I thought since my daughter had decided to take a nap with her dad, I should write something for mumways. I started writing. My first line was, ‘grey sky, windy Sunday evening’. My son dashed in the room with his football and started reading and dissecting my post. “Grey sky but mummy the sky is not grey, it is blue, the clouds are grey”. I said, ‘stop reading along, let me finish’. Then came “windy Sunday, mummy it is not windy Sunday, it is a fun Sunday”. I said, ‘can you go and write something on your own?’ He ran away kicking his football leaving me with a profound thought. I told myself ‘it is actually nice sitting in front of the computer, doing something I like doing, peaceful household, just enjoy the time’. And I did, without thinking what will happen, how am I going to wake up in the morning, what time will she go to sleep, when will they have dinner. I put a brake on my continuous flow of thoughts, a bit of mindfulness, a bit of harmony and calmness. Things will happen, they will keep coming, be a little bit selfish and do ‘nothing’ for a bit. A little bit of perspective and I felt really good. Sometimes in the process of making things better for tomorrow, we forget that we have a moment to live. A moment to appreciate, a moment we can actually enjoy.

The big organisation charts can take a back seat and for the moment enjoy the beauty of the day (evening time in my case). You may call it your order in the disorder, your peace of mind in the chaos, or a time when you do ‘nothing’. When was the last time you did ‘nothing’? I mean something without your mobile, ipads or computer or music or television, where you didn’t check the weather update or the underground lines, social networking or your emails every two seconds.

You are just to yourself with no pleasing, no formalities, no obligation and no thinking. Sometimes, you need that feeling of ‘whatever’ and take life as it comes. Now, after reading this, do take a moment for yourself, let things happen around you as they will always happen and you stay cool!

Much Love

Suranjita

Suranjita Bhagawati

Hello and welcome to 'Mumways'. I am Suranjita and I live in London with my three lovely kids and husband. Mumways is for inspiration - Writing about parenting, well being and lifestyle. I hope you enjoy going through it and thank you for visiting!