Hope you are doing well! I am so sorry for the delay in the posts, by the time kids are off to bed , I’m so exhausted that sometimes I fall asleep in their bed. But I always keep on thinking about the things close to you and I and assemble the thoughts in the form of a post for mumways. It keeps me motivated. Sometimes, the thoughts come to me as I experience a moment while sometimes they come to me when I talk to a friend or someone asks me to write about it. This time, it came as an experience. It came while I was cutting my toddler’s nails. I thought, this is it, my topic for the new post. I am going to write about the moments when I feel extremely proud of my achievements, moments of glory (you’ll soon find out, keep reading:-)), when I feel I might be the only one to skilfully do a job which needs concentration, tactics and patience and prioritising. Do you feel the same? After reading the list, I am sure you would agree with me in my ‘moments of glory’ list!
When I used to cut the nails of my sleeping baby and now when I cut the nails of my ‘toddler in motion’, I feel a sense of victory. It feels like a victory (every time!). When you decide to cut the nails, you prepare, isn’t it? You wait with the tools for them to go to sleep or they are distracted. And once they fall asleep, the ‘operation nail’ begins. Sometimes they move and you move along with them, you change positions, they make it into a fist, you change your game plan, you are quiet, making sure you don’t wake them up or hurt them. You concentrate, you keep your patience and sometimes you might have to do it in your second or third attempt. Eventually your perseverance pays! When you finish the task, it feels like a moment of glory, it’s such a great feeling. Every time I do that I feel ‘I must be the only one, so skilful and agile:-). Is the feeling mutual?
Now, when the things are much easier, I watch her and think of the time when it used to feel like a battle. Remember the time, you forgot to keep the towel near by, you obviously can’t leave the baby in the tub, the door bell (and you somehow heard ‘delivery’) and phone rang at the same time? So you gently lift the baby, grab the towel from the room, wrap her up, let the phone ring and swiftly open the door. The person behind the door had no idea of the conundrum and you take pride in that! Within seconds, you forget about everything and get busy with the baby. Moisturise the baby, put on clean clothes, comb the hair and you get lost in that beautiful baby fragrance. Ah, the feeling is magical and unexplainable. At that moment, I used to be on a different high, with the thoughts, ‘no one else in the world can multitask the way I do it’ (every time) Don’t you feel the same? I am sure you do, don’t you?
Remember the first time you went out with your baby? It was a drill. It was calculative – military precision and organised with a checklist – Nappy bag, wipes, changing mat, nappies, pushchair etc. Checking to see if you have left anything important and every time jumping up with the thought of the things you might need and you haven’t packed. You were careful of the timings, especially the feeds and naps. It was the time to put your plans into action. Finally, you step out alone, well not exactly. You step out of the house for the very first time with your baby. It is a victory, proud, magical moment and every time you step out, you become more and more skilled and the time taken to get out the house reduces. How about that? Don’t you feel victorious? You are the only one – so organised and skilful. Let the feeling stay with you forever.
I had such a lovely time thinking about those moments of utmost happiness and amazement! I used to be so amazed with my abilities to multitask:-) Those feelings of disbelief and those beautiful moments of feeling blessed are my treasurers for life. In the various stages of your kid’s life, cherish those unfathomable tasks and enjoy those moments when you feel like a hero (superhero/superwoman)