Well Being

Try it and shatter the ‘what ifs’

Hello everyone!

How have you been? What’s new? It took me long, longer than I thought it would. I asked a couple of my friends to take a look on the new look of mumways and very kindly they gave their time and sent their words of encouragement. Thank you! I was trying to change some of the aspects of the website and I had  doubt (fear would be the right word) that If I install something that I don’t have any clue about, it might crash or I had to start from the very beginning. Remember your first encounter with the computer, the time when you went to your very first computer class? Gosh, it does sound like ancient times! I had a similar kind of feeling. The ‘what ifs’. What if you pressed a key and ‘The computer’ crashed. What if you forgot the codes? It used to take such a long time to start a computer, remember? What if everything was deleted?  While this time, instead of ‘The computer’, it was my website. New theme, new look, new configuration, CSS (Cascading Style Sheets), it’s a bit too much for a non technical person. I had these fears for several months. People talk about  making a ‘child theme’ to control the aspect of change. But I hadn’t done that either. But finally, after a bit of reading and several sessions of youtube videos, I hit the ‘activate theme’ button. It changed and there was no looking back. Made a couple of mistakes and still haven’t figured out a few things. But it’s going to be out and will take it from there. Will ask questions and figure out the rest along the way. This post is about shattering those doubts and self expressing! 


Is there anything new that you have longed to try? Let’s begin with something really simple, say a hairstyle or hair colour, run, power walk, gym, reading, writing, painting, you name it and the list could continue forever. I still have problems with the idea of changing my hair colour. I want to try something new but a faint voice in me tells me that ‘the current one looks ok:-). In spite of a few greys, I haven’t yet done anything to my hair. So that’s my priority on the list. What about you? That was a simple example to start with. But many a times, even your big ideas and desires remain unexpressed due to the ‘WHAT IFS’. Here are my few ideas to let you loose and ideas of having a ‘L’ plate for life:

Let the world know

Tell your friends and family and let it be public. People need to know about it to share. Once you know that it’s out, you would be motivated to work for it. It has always worked for me and I am sure it will work for you as well. Whenever I tell my ideas to my friends, I feel the urge to make it happen. However silly it is, I give it a go. That way I get to deal with those thoughts in my own mind first. Sometimes, the ideas work and sometimes they don’t.The ‘Not so good ideas’ are great for having a laugh later on. Trust me!


Let go of the judgers

There are judgers everywhere and the worst ones are the ones in your own head. Make it simple and uncomplicated. Do it and don’t dwell on that work for too long. Also, don’t take anything too seriously. For a tiny moment, I was carried away with the thought that it was my 50th post and I had to do something really special. But then I realised, it’s just another day and another post and I have to move on. If I wait for the right post, the right moment, the right everything, I would end up waiting for that right moment forever. The right moment is now when I am making an effort to write.  So, it’s simple, move on to the next, that way you don’t wait for the judgers. Before you doubt, you have something new to look forward to. 



Before you ask questions, try to learn on your own. I tried the other way round and didn’t go anywhere. There is so much material and resources to learn from and once you set the foundation, things suddenly start making so much sense! It’s just like trying something new to cook, you read the recipe before putting in the ingredients! Now, after I post this, I am going to ask people to work on the technicalities of CSS and the rest.

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Look for inspiration

Role models, ‘people who have been there and done that’, are a great starting point. Or anywhere you feel uplifted for example nature – the various change of colours, the fragrances around, the birds, droplets of water, sunshine peeping through your curtain,  children – their imagination,  fearlessness, attitude of never giving up, their infectious laughter! 


Last but not the least, Laugh

Laugh at yourself! People might think you are crazy but it’s their problem. You laugh anyways! Be with the people you like spending time with. Talk about your ideas and as I said before, laugh about the ‘not so good ones’:-). 


Thank you for being there!

Much love



Suranjita Bhagawati on Email
Suranjita Bhagawati
Hello and welcome to 'Mumways'. I am Suranjita and I live in London with my three lovely kids and husband. Mumways is for inspiration - Writing about parenting, well being and lifestyle. I hope you enjoy going through it and thank you for visiting!

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Suranjita Bhagawati

Hello and welcome to 'Mumways'. I am Suranjita and I live in London with my three lovely kids and husband. Mumways is for inspiration - Writing about parenting, well being and lifestyle. I hope you enjoy going through it and thank you for visiting!

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