Calm within…moment shall pass
I was reading an interesting article on Huffington post (link of the article at the end). It talked about the various phrases to calm an angry child. I loved reading the article and theoretically it hits the right points.
I am sure I am going to apply some of them, only when I am calm enough to think and use them wisely.
Regardless of your age, size, intelligence and emotion, words can have a deep impact on you. ‘Shut up’ or ‘please can you be quiet’? When you are fuming, ‘Shut up’ is much easier to say, isn’t it?
As much as I loved going through the article. I believe that only a cool mind can execute those plans of choosing the right phrase at the right time. When your child is throwing a big tantrum, the first rule of the 123 technique should be used on ‘you’.
There is no way that you can croon a melody or choose a pleasant sound, when you are yourself a boiling kettle. Everyday, every situation is different. Hence the reasons for you blood to boil are also different.
How you choose your words, can bring peace straightaway or peace after 2 -3 hours. We all get tired after a while and moment tend to pass as well. That’s it! The key to the problem. Letting the moment to pass within you and then dealing with the little people.
So what do you do to calm yourself down? Here are some of my theories and they tend to work:-) (Some of the time).
Because sometimes, it’s totally ok to let it out. If you only have a few seconds to leave the house for school, and your kid is turning on the TV. Phrases go out of the window. Priorities, you see. Practice, practice as they say.
If you are at home and the situation is getting tensed with your children. You know that you have to intervene but with the right words. Take a step back, turn around. Mind you, there would be a strong urge to get tangled in the situation and shout out something loud. But it could lead to even more noise. So walk away, keep walking and the let moment pass within you. They are your own kids, an extension of you, can’t be that bad. It would be so much easier to talk when you are not boiling within. The right words will flow.
Whisper to yourself:
If you are in the car and there is a situation. Now, some of you might already know what I am talking about. There is noise from the back of your car and you have to focus on the road. The priority is their safety. Talk to yourself quietly. Almost in whispers. The kids will reduce their volume to listen to your whispering. Let the moment pass within you.
Cliche but it works. A few counts to breathe in, a few counts to hold in and a few counts to release. Let the moment pass within you.
Here’s the link: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/renee-jain/26-phrases-to-calm-an-angry-child_b_9997288.html?ir=UK+Parents&