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Calm within…moment shall pass

Calm within…moment shall pass

I was reading an interesting article on Huffington post (link of the article at the end). It talked about the various phrases to calm an angry child. I loved reading the article and theoretically it hits the right points. 

I am sure I am going to apply some of them, only when I am calm enough to think and use them wisely. 

Regardless of your age, size, intelligence and emotion, words can have a deep impact on you. ‘Shut up’ or ‘please can you be quiet’? When you are fuming, ‘Shut up’ is much easier to say, isn’t it?

As much as I loved going through the article. I believe that only a cool mind can execute those plans of choosing the right phrase at the right time. When your child is throwing a big tantrum, the first rule of the 123 technique should be used on ‘you’.

There is no way that you can croon a melody or choose a pleasant sound, when you are yourself a boiling kettle. Everyday, every situation is different. Hence the reasons for you blood to boil are also different.

How you choose your words, can bring peace straightaway or peace after 2 -3 hours. We all get tired after a while and moment tend to pass as well. That’s it! The key to the problem. Letting the moment to pass within you and then dealing with the little people.

So what do you do to calm yourself down? Here are some of my theories and they tend to work:-) (Some  of the time).

Because sometimes, it’s totally ok to let it out. If you only have a few seconds to leave the house for school, and your kid is turning on the TV. Phrases go out of the window. Priorities, you see.  Practice, practice as they say. 

Zone out:

If you are at home and the situation is getting tensed with your children. You know that  you have to intervene but with the right words. Take a step back, turn around. Mind you, there would be a strong urge to get tangled in the situation and shout out something loud. But it could lead to even more noise. So walk away, keep walking and the let moment pass within you. They are your own kids, an extension of you, can’t be that bad. It would be so much easier to talk when you are not boiling within. The right words will flow.

 

Zone out
Zone out. Calm within, moment shall pass

 

Whisper to yourself:

If you are in the car and there is a situation. Now, some of you might already know what I am talking about. There is noise from the back of your car and you have to focus on the road. The priority is their safety. Talk to yourself quietly. Almost in whispers. The kids will reduce their volume to listen to your whispering. Let the moment pass within you.

 

Talk to yourself...sometime you do need expert advice;-)
Talk to yourself…sometime you do need expert advice;-). Calm within, moment shall pass

 

Deep breaths:

Cliche but it works.  A few counts to breathe in, a few counts to hold in and a few counts to release. Let the moment pass within you.

 

Deep breaths
Deep breaths. Calm within, the moment shall pass

Much love 

Suranjita

Here’s the link: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/renee-jain/26-phrases-to-calm-an-angry-child_b_9997288.html?ir=UK+Parents&

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Suranjita Bhagawati
Hello and welcome to 'Mumways'. I am Suranjita and I live in London with my three lovely kids and husband. Mumways is for inspiration - Writing about parenting, well being and lifestyle. I hope you enjoy going through it and thank you for visiting!

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Suranjita Bhagawati

Hello and welcome to 'Mumways'. I am Suranjita and I live in London with my three lovely kids and husband. Mumways is for inspiration - Writing about parenting, well being and lifestyle. I hope you enjoy going through it and thank you for visiting!

10 Comments

  1. Good tips – I’m all about the ‘pause’ and parenting from a calm place (when possible…). I’m going to try the whisper on my toddler – I hadn’t thought of that! #StayClassyMama

    1. admin

      Thank you Liz for stopping by!! It’s all about trial and error for me. Working on finding new ways?

  2. Oh totally. I am trying to practice calmer parenting and its all well and good when im not tired or dont have anything to do, but come bedtime and im tired, well thats where the real challenge is . Taking a time out of the situation, mental or physical, pausing does help. #stayclassy

    1. admin

      Thank you so much!! Yes, totally! Calmness goes out of the window when exhausted?

  3. Good advice – I agree that you need to be in the right frame of mind yourself to deal effectively with a toddler’s emotions. #stayclassy

    1. Or #stayclassymama even, as that should have said!

      1. admin

        Yes!! Couldn’t have put it better than that
        #stayclassymama

    2. admin

      Thank you so much for visiting and penning your thoughts?

  4. Love the advice! I think whispering to myself is my top solution because I don’t think I’ll be able to hold it in! Deep breathing might also work, I remember learning this in hypnobirthing class and it seemed to work – kind of. Thanks for the tips and sharing with #StayClassyMama!

    1. admin

      Thank you so much for your lovely words and also for hosting the linky with Sarah! I had a lovely time reading new blogs and encouraging messages?

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